Dental Fear...Terrified Beyond Words...

by J
(Canada)

Please don't judge...I'm sure most of this is my own fault and I'm ashamed enough already.

I don't have much of a dental history as I was never taken as a child. I never had problems so my great-grandmother who raised me never saw a reason, I guess. Nothing I can do about that now. My first real problem happened well into my 20s and I needed to get a wisdom tooth pulled. Long story short, the anti-anxiety pills I was given didn't fully kick in until it was over, the guy didn't numb me properly and wouldn't believe me, and instead of pulling the tooth he busted it off at the gum line WITH HIS THUMB. (Seriously? For the kind of money I'm paying USE A TOOL!) To this day seeing that silver lamborghini behind the office makes my blood boil.

Years later I started having problems with another wisdom tooth and the new place I chose advertised awesome sedation. "Patients wake up at home with no memory of the visit." Sounded like heaven, and they put me through hell. The hygenist humiliated me. I have a hyper sensitive gag reflex and couldn't keep the little x-ray thingy in my mouth. She froze the back of my throat with a spray and I gagged on that too. The dentist informed me that I had an infection, and never offered to treat it. He started making a list as long as my arm of procedures he wanted to do, until I flat out told him that pulling the wisdom teeth was all I was paying for.

Then came the real hell. A different dentist at the same office did the work. I payed $1300 for the drugs and 3 teeth. He pulled one, dislocated my jaw to do it, and sent me home without resetting it. I woke up in the hospital. To rub a little proverbial salt into the wound, he put up a huge fight when I tried to get the rest of my money back.

Now just the smell of a dental office sends me into a full-blown panic attack. I mean a shaking crying clear the door or I will make my own to escape panic attack. Being told "don't be a baby" doesn't help. Now I'm having problems again and I'm completely screwed. :(




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Dental Rape
by: Anonymous

The dentist's office was a nightmare. Children would be hanging on the doors trying to keep out. The dentist whistled a happy tune while he was drilling, hitting the nerves. My parents told me to be brave. 1965

I believed that there was no anesthetic until 1975! Then the new dentist came to town. Those drugs worked really well. I was unable to smile for over 2 months, because my muscles were paralyzed, but no pain.

Then whenever I want to see the dentist, I have to see the dental hygenist. The gums are ripped to shreds, each terryfying stroke of the hygenist ripping pieces of my gums. Afterwards, I can feel the shreds of my gums, strings like you have eaten chicken! Horrifying! Painful! The dental hygenist tells me that this is necessary!! 2005

When it is healed, they call to ask me back! 2009

Then they rip up my entire mouth again, there is blood everywhere, I am choking on it, I can't swallow it. 2010

I think I have a cavity, but the dental office will only send me to the hygenist, so she rips my gums open, and makes fun of me! I tell her to stop, she refuses, and ridicules me even more! 2011

I am choking, I can't breathe. I cough so hard, that I think that I will never get my breath back. My face is red. I try to take a breath, I can't.

I tell them that I am choking. They laugh! I feel humiliated. Then they send me letters asking me to come back. 2012

What do I do?

reply by Shelly ~admin

It's absurd that this has continued for so long.

There are very good dentists and hygienists. Once you find one, you wont mind having your teeth cleaned twice a year. It will be so much easier....possibly even pleasant:)

Do some research and find a new dentist with a gentle hygienist.

Here is a good place to start...

A Dentist In My Area

Good luck,
~Shelly~




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How to find a good dentist...
by: Shelly

Hi J, Wow, what a streak of crazy bad luck you have had! I had to read your note a few times to absorb it all. I'm so sorry that you have had such horrible dental visits.

I'm glad you are still willing to try again :)

I would get a personal referral from a friend. Ask very specific questions...Is the hygienist gentle? Is there more than one dentist? If so, can you always see the same one? The more information you get before, the better.

Here is an article on how to find a dentist. It has ideas for questions to ask about potential dentists.


After you choose a dentist, schedule a consultation, then a cleaning...take it one step at a time until you feel comfortable. Don't be shy about sharing your history. Your hygienist and dentist will appreciate the heads up :)

Also don't hesitate to get a second opinion if you are not sure about the recommended treatment.

Good luck,
~Shelly~



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